Using Dating Boundary Script Builder
When to use this
Use this before a conversation you are dreading, when you know what you need but not how to say it. Writing it down first is what keeps it short and calm in the moment.
How to read the result
A workable boundary states what you need, not what the other person did wrong. It is specific, it is about you, and it does not require the other person to agree in order to be valid. If your draft contains a diagnosis of their behaviour, rewrite it as a statement about your own limit.
What this tool cannot do
This tool assumes a conversation between two people who are both safe. If you feel unsafe, are being coerced, or fear the reaction, this is not the right resource. Speak to someone you trust, or contact a local support service.
Next step
Read your draft back and remove every sentence that argues for permission. A boundary is stated, not negotiated, and the shorter version is almost always the clearer one. Decide in advance what you will do if it is not respected, so the answer does not have to be improvised.